No. Not in my case at least. I would personally find that intrusive, but others perhaps may welcome it. Divers belong to many smaller communities within the global one. You all have buddies, some will probably be good friends. For me, expertise was and continues to be, at hand. I believe I also informed you of that on the 'why do we...'thread that I personally found it insensitive at the prospect of being 'gently pressed for information' and even prior to that on the 'information from fatalities' ...but hey, like you say, I'm not every relative.

I also take your earlier point Charlie that not every relative will take the steps I have and that my opinion should not overly sway an argument one way or the other. I thought I had made that clear that I spoke form no other viewpoint but my own, but apologise if that's not the impression I gave. Feel free to ignore it if you wish. However as you had indirectly referred to me, as being distressed by the discussions in the public arena and brought my 'opinions' into the mix, on a thread that was started by another relative, I thought it best to post here to assure that this is not the case and to disassociate myself from that particular statement. In fact, he cause of that particular episode of distress is difficult to appreciate now, as deleted posts removed some of the context, but I believe it was at the lack of action arising from all the discussion. Some really valuable things have come out of that since, so it has all been to the good.