Hi Bill and welcome to the board!!
As far as places to stay that are small...I would look into Carib Inn.
Bruce Bowker's Carib Inn, Bonaire, Netherlands Antilles - Scuba Diving and Accommodations - Home Page
From the home page "The Carib Inn has only ten units with no plans for expansion. Bruce has said that bigger is not always better. Its current size is easily managed and easily maintained. This creates a unique niche in the resort business on Bonaire for the vacationer who wants a small dedicated resort. The Carib Inn's guest list is made up of people who desire exactly what the Carib Inn offers. "
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Bruce has been on the island since the early 80's I believe and is an extremely helpful individual. I have never stayed there, but I was sent to him to have a BC repaired and he took care of it at no charge. The place looks like something you would like based on what you dont like.
As far as Drager friendly...not sure if they are or not..but the island is small enough so if they arent Rebreather friendly...try contacting Walt at
Rec Tek Scuba Bonaire - We do it silent. We do it deep. Techincal diving.
Hope this helps and if you have any other questions about the island let me know. I've been there 9 times.
Jason